And the award of Best Mom goes to.....................

.............................. well apparently not me!  I have a girlfriend who is single with no children. She always stresses to me what a good excellent mother her friend is AND every time she talks about her friend she has to add in, "she's the most excellent mother I know!"  For example, "Sally**, you know?  My friend that is the most excellent mother I know, well, she, blah blah blah!" "My friend, Sally, not only is she the most excellent mother I know, she is the best cook too!" "My friend, Sally, that is the most excellent mother I know, and the most excellent cook, she was telling me that blah, blah, blah!" Ugh!!!  I admire the fact that my friend admires her friend so much,  but still does she have to say that. every. single. freaking. time?  Especially when she knows I struggle and strive to be an excellent mother.  Let me clarify, by struggling I mean I am a working mother and so you have to find a good balance with work, home, being a partner and a mother - if we could just take work out of the equation that'd be awesome and that's for another post.  Anyway,  then I strive to be the most excellent mother to M while I also strive to be a kick ass employee, partner, friend, sister, daughter, just thank God I am not a aunt right now! ; )

So I asked myself, when I really should be asking my friend,  what makes a mother excellent?  So excellent that you could say, "she is the most excellent mother I know" every time you speak of said woman!

Then I started thinking that if this mother is excellent then this is the best she will ever be and that is not good enough for me.  I am a good mother, a dang good mother with room for improvement and growth and that woman will just have to settle as excellent for the rest of her life.  I will be a word much bigger than excellent some day!!  And I will wait for my     child(ren) to tell me what that word is and not some co-worker.  I want to hear it from my kid's mouth - that be more rewarding to me than anything!

** names have been changed to protect the Best Mother's identity.